Life’s Big Little Questions

I am inviting you to go with me on this journey, here goes!

What makes you say WOW?

What’s your favorite sound?

What is your constant internal struggle?

Do you remember your first birthday gift?

Who is your first real friend?

What was your first job?

How about your first date, first kiss, first boyfriend/girlfriend?

When did you and what did you first watch on TV?

Did you have a childhood toy?

What or who is your first love?

What makes you cry, what gives you peace?

When did you realize you were an adult?

Your first day at high school?

Have you ever been a best man, a groom, a maid of honor, a bride?

Compare your first day driving with driving now!!

What do you do when you are bored?

Favourite dessert, anyone?

Have you ever been caught flat-footed?

What are you most grateful for?

Do you have a role model?

Name your two most embarassing moments!!

What advice would you give your younger self?

Have you ever done glamour shots?

Favourite vacation spot?

Proudest moment to date!!

Do you give to charity?

Who or what is your greatest teacher?

What do you love and hate about make-up?

Do you wear extensions? Why or why not?

What has been your scariest ride?

What lessons have you learnt to date? What lessons are taking long to learn?

What would you tell your 10 year old self?

Indulge me…  Please


Virtues & Vices

Total Forgiveness,
Unwavering Compassion,
Absolute Patience
Complete Gratitude
Impeccable Integrity
Unconditional Kindness
Unending Love
Real Humility and Contentment
Peace perfect Peace

“I will never forget that….. That’s not fair…….. I didn’t deserve such treatment.”
“I am sorry, but you shouldn’t have done that?
Or I don’t feel sorry for you or for him, he got what he had coming, you reap what you sow.”
And, how about? “I can’t wait any longer, time expired I must do what I have to do”
Then, “how can I be thankful for that?”
“I want more, that’s not enough!!!!”
“Oh I can’t afford to lose out on all that cash!!! Just this once, I will do it!
This is black mail!!!!!
“Why can’t you just make the decision, what’s stopping you?
How could you do that? I could or would never do that!”
How could you even sleep or eat with all that’s going on? I have lingering doubts – something is not right!!!”

The yin yang of life……………….the perpetual internal struggle towards character. It seems weird -that to get to good we must endure evil; to realize virtue we fight vice, to reach perfection we must overcome sin. But that’s how it seems to work, and it’s very effective!!! Scripture is replete with the examples of these internal conflicts, impure motives and egregious actions which serves as reminders and admonishment for us to overcome evil with good, to love our enemies, to lose our life in order to gain life……. Think about King Solomon and King David, the Prophet Elijah, the Patriarchs Abram and Moses. Then of course my favourite Joseph, Jacob’s son. He was loved by his father, hated by his brothers, did the right thing but landed in jail for it. Talk about a raw deal, talk about unfair, take some time and get in his mind or further yet see yourself experiencing all he endured. But it all redounded to good…. No doubt without being sold into slavery he would never have gone to Egypt, met the Pharaoh become PM, wore the ring and saved his family’s life. The Yin Yang of life…he was chosen by God whose wisdom is higher and deeper than our finite short-term thoughts. Then why is it so hard to let go and trust God?

The Plea
“Where is he?” you exclaim,
When I cry out for help, “Where are you?” “Are you listening, are you hearing me call?”
Can I reassure you that he is always near, always listening, always gracious, always forgiving, always merciful……..Are we our own barrier? Do we understand trust? To get to trust we must surrender and freely choose him, as free will is for that purpose too. Who contends that submission is easy? Far from it, and it’s not weakness either, it’s purely wisdom. So firstly, we first need to fall in love with Jesus, then we need to pay attention, then we will learn to hear the small, sweet, still voice.

He says “in my time, my way, for my purpose …….if we only would allow him to. But then even when we mess up, he promises he will mop up. All things work for good, but for who? Oh it is so true we are impatient, and we have a backward view of justice. We think life is unfair, but you know what is unfair………unfair is that we do so much harm and evil – deliberately and ignorantly, and we will not be given just punishment- Mercy, unfair is that we receive what we hardly deserve – Grace.


IMG_1475[1]Nothing takes by breath away as much as nature does.  Trees graceful and elegant…. flowers blossoming, honeybees roving, leaves and grass multiple hues of green, fruits ripe and sweet, butterflies, sunshine, vegetables, blue-green waters, cascading waterfalls, bluffs, valleys and peaks, meandering and unassuming rivers, coves and bays. Oh, the order and flow of nature, the patience- perfect timing. If only we would take our cues, everything would be so much easier.  Then there are the seasons- the flavors of spring, pristine winters, the colors of fall, the heat of summer.

I feel blessed and privileged to have seen it all, but is there posterity? Are we doing enough to ensure our children’s children experience it too? We live in a dump because we love to dump. Why is a KFC chicken box seen on roadways miles away from the nearest franchise? And when we have the annual pre- Christmas de-bushing exercise, have you ever noticed the disgrace? When did we stop slash and burn and replace it with throw or stack? I wish we would see the correlation between hurling our boxes and bags and natural disasters. And it’s not enough to even think or say that someone has a job, that’s not good enough.

Global warming is wreaking enough havoc, lets resolve to do our part. You in your small corner and I in mine.





I have heard of change, but all the theories postulated about change management and resistance to change are not adequate preparation for actual change. And you can google all you want, if you don’t know east from west or north from south……you are in for a rude awakening.

This sojourn began after I decided to change location- a leap of faith if I had ever taken one. Now I dont know why I like extremes but this is a chronicle of my experience, I have assigned stars to explain.

-20 to -35 degrees Celsius – no stars, but boots, scarves, coats and gloves definitely worth it (give me nine more days- don’t say a word) it’s a good winter is the catch phrase.

Static blanket and nuff electric shock- no stars

Voluntary unemployment – no stars ( be grateful for your job)

For the first time in my life I realized I really don’t need TV, four point five  stars

Reading- yes . Five stars

From being the caller, to waiting on friends and family to call. Zero, zero, zero stars

Talking to my peeps each and everyday, a real blessing. Couldn’t go on without that- Did I ever tell you am grateful for what’s app? Well it’s worth repeating!!!!! Five star experience

From doing little domestic chores to juggling work and daily chores – three stars – although I really needed this. Hats off to working parents!!!!

Learning new things and re-learning old things – five star experience- like figuring out the vacuum cleaner, taking the bus and loading the laundry card. 😂😂😂😂😂

More walking – five stars – I really need  to take the stairs more often though

Healthy eating – three stars – I am a junkie and I firmly believe in eating whatever I want, whenever I want- life is too short!!!do I hear you judging me?

Mall within walking distance- still deciding how many stars for that.

A job, an accounting job, – five stars. I am blessed and forever grateful- the result of endless prayers. Wonder how long I will have this mindset for?

My mom being okay- definitely five stars………

Having a friend smooth the path, five stars and figuring out some on your own…. It goes without saying.

A  spiritual routine- it keeps me alive.- five stars

So I came, I am seeing, I am conquering moment by moment,  bit by bit. The journey is far from complete